Sometimes the danger is in knowing.
“She’s so annoying, why doesn’t she just go away?”
“I can’t beleive she wore that! Doesn’t she know that doesn’t fit her right?”
“Did you know she said something to him, I can’t believe she had the audacity to do that!”
“Why doesn’t she just grow up?”
“It wouldn’t even matter if he was here or not.”
Can you even hear yourselves sometimes? We are ADULTS, not in middle school, not in high school; we are GROWN people. Reading those insults you probably wouldn’t guess these are things I hear in the everyday world I live in, and no they aren’t about me. I mean I couldn’t really tell you if they were about me, because in “grown-up”land people still talk behind others backs.
It’s hard to be that person who doesn’t know how to communicate well because they live on the Autism Spectrum; yet they still want to live normal, be social, and have friends. If someone has told you lies your whole life, don’t you owe it to that guy to tell him he’s being deceived? Maybe she was never able to learn from an adult how to “grow up” the way you did, maybe she didn’t have an adult to learn from at all.
My point in this is you really never truly know someone’s story, someone’s life, someone’s feelings about you, and even moreso how they feel about themselves. Don’t judge people, because trust me; they are judging themselves. They are looking at how you handle yourself in tough situations with ease. She notices how annoying she can be, but really doesn’t know how to change. He sometimes doesn’t know why he keeps going on when no one seems to notice if when he’s gone.
We tell the younger generations to be careful of strangers, not to chat with people they don’t know, and make sure to have your cellphone on you at all times. What we don’t tell them is the danger of their words. We don’t tell them how words can have a snowball effect on someone’s life, how words sometimes can (and do) hurt worse then physical punches. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”….. that’s not the truth. We need to teach them to think about what they say before they say it and teach them that words do hurt.
If you have not already read or watched 13 Reasons Why I urge you to do so. For those of you who have triggers, this is a hard one to watch. It will remind you (as it reminded me) how our words can really affect those we speak them to.
“Words are powerful. They can create or they can destroy. Use them wisely.”
Live, Love, Laugh…..Always,